ON SHEEP, WOLVES, AND SHEEPDOGS
By Lt.Col.
(ret.) Dave Grossman, Army Ranger, psychology professor, author of "On Killing"
and the upcoming "On Combat".
"Honor never grows old, and honor rejoices the heart of age. It does so
because honor is, finally, about defending those noble and worthy things that
deserve defending, even if it comes at a high cost. In our time, that may mean
social disapproval, public scorn, hardship, persecution, or as always, even
death itself. The question remains: What is worth defending? What is worth dying
for? What is worth living for?" - William J. Bennett - in a lecture to the
United States Naval Academy November 24, 1997
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One Vietnam veteran, an old retired
colonel, once said this to me: "Most of the people in our society are sheep.
They are kind, gentle, productive creatures who can only hurt one another by
accident." This is true. Remember, the murder rate is six per 100,000 per year,
and the aggravated assault rate is four per 1,000 per year. What this means is
that the vast majority of Americans are not inclined to hurt one another.
Some estimates say that two million Americans are victims of violent crimes
every year, a tragic, staggering number, perhaps an all-time record rate of
violent crime. But there are almost 300 million Americans, which means that the
odds of being a victim of violent crime is considerably less than one in a
hundred on any given year. Furthermore, since many violent crimes are committed
by repeat offenders, the actual number of violent citizens is considerably less
than two million.
Thus there is a paradox, and we must grasp both ends of the situation: We may
well be in the most violent times in history, but violence is still remarkably
rare. This is because most citizens are kind, decent people who are not capable
of hurting each other, except by accident or under extreme provocation. They are
sheep.
I mean nothing negative by calling them sheep. To me it is like the pretty, blue
robin's egg. Inside it is soft and gooey but someday it will grow into something
wonderful. But the egg cannot survive without its hard blue shell. Police
officers, soldiers, and other warriors are like that shell, and
someday the civilization they protect will grow into something wonderful. For
now, though, they need warriors to protect them from the predators.
"Then there are the wolves," the old war veteran said, "and the wolves feed on
the sheep without mercy." Do you believe there are wolves out there who will
feed on the flock without mercy? You better believe it. There are evil men in
this world and they are capable of evil deeds. The moment you forget that or
pretend it is not so, you become a sheep. There is no safety in denial.
"Then there are sheepdogs," he went on, "and I'm a sheepdog. I live to protect
the flock and confront the wolf."
If you have no capacity for violence then you are a healthy productive citizen,
a sheep. If you have a capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow
citizens, then you have defined an aggressive sociopath, a wolf. But what if you
have a capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens? What do
you have then? A sheepdog, a warrior, someone who is walking the hero's path.
Someone who can walk into the heart of darkness, into the universal human
phobia, and walk out unscathed
Let me expand on this old soldier's excellent model of the sheep, wolves, and
sheepdogs. We know that the sheep live in denial, that is what makes them sheep.
They do not want to believe that there is evil in the world. They can accept the
fact that fires can happen, which is why they want fire extinguishers, fire
sprinklers, fire alarms and fire exits throughout their kids' schools.
But many of them are outraged at the idea of putting an armed police officer in
their kid's school. Our children are thousands of times more likely to be killed
or seriously injured by school violence than fire, but the sheep's only response
to the possibility of violence is denial. The idea of someone coming to kill or
harm their child is just too hard, and so they chose the path of denial.
The sheep generally do not like the sheepdog. He looks a lot like the wolf. He
has fangs and the capacity for violence. The difference, though, is that the
sheepdog must not, can not and will not ever harm the sheep. Any sheep dog who
intentionally harms the lowliest little lamb will be punished and removed. The
world cannot work any other way, at least not in a representative democracy or a
republic such as ours.
Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep. He is a constant reminder that there are
wolves in the land. They would prefer that he didn't tell them where to go, or
give them traffic tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports in camouflage
fatigues holding an M-16. The sheep would much rather have the sheepdog cash in
his fangs, spray paint himself white, and go, "Baa."
Until the wolf shows up. Then the entire flock tries desperately to hide behind
one lonely sheepdog.
The students, the victims, at Columbine High School were big, tough high school
students, and under ordinary circumstances they would not have had the time of
day for a police officer. They were not bad kids; they just had nothing to say
to a cop. When the school was under attack, however, and SWAT teams were
clearing the rooms and hallways, the officers had to physically peel those
clinging, sobbing kids off of them. This is how the little lambs feel about
their sheepdog when the wolf is at the door.
Look at what happened after September 11, 2001 when the wolf pounded hard on the
door. Remember how America, more than ever before, felt differently about their
law enforcement officers and military personnel? Remember how many times you
heard the word 'hero'?
Understand that there is nothing morally superior about being a sheepdog; it is
just what you choose to be. Also understand that a sheepdog is a funny critter:
He is always sniffing around out on the perimeter, checking the breeze, barking
at things that go bump in the night, and yearning for a righteous battle. That
is, the young sheepdogs yearn for a righteous battle. The old sheepdogs are a
little older and wiser, but they move to the sound of the guns when needed right
along with the young ones.
Here is how the sheep and the sheepdog think differently. The sheep pretend the
wolf will never come, but the sheepdog lives for that day. After the attacks on
September 11, 2001, most of the sheep, that is, most citizens in America said,
"Thank God I wasn't on one of those planes." The sheepdogs, the warriors, said,
"Dear God, I wish I could have been on one of those planes. Maybe I could have
made a difference." When you are truly transformed into a warrior and have truly
invested yourself into warriorhood, you want to be there. You want to be able to
make a difference.
There is nothing morally superior about the sheepdog--the warrior--but he does
have one real advantage. Only one. And that is that he is able to survive and
thrive in an environment that destroys 98 percent of the population.
There was research
conducted a few years ago with individuals convicted of violent crimes. These
cons were in prison for serious, predatory crimes of violence: assaults, murders
and killing law enforcement officers. The vast majority said that they
specifically targeted victims by body language: slumped walk, passive behavior
and lack of awareness. They chose their victims like
big cats do in Africa, when they select one out of the herd that is least able
to protect itself.
Some people may be destined to be sheep and others might be genetically primed
to be wolves or sheepdogs. But I believe that most people can choose which one
they want to be, and I'm proud to say that more and more Americans are choosing
to become sheepdogs.
Seven months after the attack on September 11, 2001, Todd Beamer was honored in
his hometown of Cranbury, New Jersey. Todd, as you recall, was the man on Flight
93 over Pennsylvania who called on his cell phone to alert an operator from
United Airlines about the hijacking. When he learned of the other three
passenger planes that had been used as weapons, Todd dropped his phone and
uttered the words, "Let's roll," which authorities believe was a signal to the
other passengers to confront the terrorist hijackers. In one hour, a
transformation occurred among the passengers - athletes, business people and
parents. -- from sheep to sheepdogs and together they fought the wolves,
ultimately saving an unknown number of lives on the ground.
There is no safety for honest men except by believing all possible evil of
evil men. - Edmund Burke
Here is the point I like to emphasize, especially to the thousands of police
officers and soldiers I speak to each year. In nature the sheep, real sheep, are
born as sheep. Sheepdogs are born that way, and so are wolves. They didn't have
a choice. But you are not a critter. As a human being, you can be whatever you
want to be. It is a conscious, moral decision.
If you want to be a sheep, then you can be a sheep and that is okay, but you
must understand the price you pay. When the wolf comes, you and your loved ones
are going to die if there is not a sheepdog there to protect you. If you want to
be a wolf, you can be one, but the sheepdogs are going to hunt you down and you
will never have rest, safety, trust or love. But if you want to be a sheepdog
and walk the warrior's path, then you must make a conscious and moral decision
every day to dedicate, equip and prepare yourself to thrive in that toxic,
corrosive moment when the wolf comes knocking at the door.
For example, many officers carry their weapons in church. They are well
concealed in ankle holsters, shoulder holsters or inside-the-belt holsters
tucked into the small of their backs. Anytime you go to some form of religious
service, there is a very good chance that a police officer in your congregation
is carrying. You will never know if there is such an individual in your place of
worship, until the wolf appears to massacre you and your loved ones.
I was training a group of police officers in Texas, and during the break, one
officer asked his friend if he carried his weapon in church. The other cop
replied, "I will never be caught without my gun in church." I asked why he felt
so strongly about this, and he told me about a cop he knew who was at a church
massacre in Ft. Worth, Texas in 1999. In that incident, a mentally deranged
individual came into the church and opened fire, gunning down fourteen people.
He said that officer believed he could have saved every life that day if he had
been carrying his gun. His own son was shot, and all he could do was throw
himself on the boy's body and wait to die. That cop looked me in the eye and
said, "Do you have any idea how hard it would be to live with yourself after
that?"
Some individuals would be horrified if they knew this police officer was
carrying a weapon in church. They might call him paranoid and would probably
scorn him. Yet these same individuals would be enraged and would call for "heads
to roll" if they found out that the airbags in their cars were defective, or
that the fire extinguisher and fire sprinklers in their kids' school did not
work. They can accept the fact that fires and traffic accidents can happen and
that there must be safeguards against them.
Their only response to the wolf, though, is denial, and all too often their
response to the sheepdog is scorn and disdain. But the sheepdog quietly asks
himself, "Do you have and idea how hard it would be to live with yourself if
your loved ones were attacked and killed, and you had to stand there helplessly
because you were unprepared for that day?"
It is denial that turns people into sheep. Sheep are psychologically destroyed
by combat because their only defense is denial, which is counterproductive and
destructive, resulting in fear, helplessness and horror when the wolf shows up.
Denial kills you twice. It kills you once, at your moment of truth when you are
not physically prepared: you didn't bring your gun, you didn't train. Your only
defense was wishful thinking. Hope is not a strategy. Denial kills you a second
time because even if you do physically survive, you
are psychologically shattered by your fear helplessness and horror at your
moment of truth.
Gavin de Becker puts it like this in 'Fear Less', his superb post-9/11 book,
which should be required reading for anyone trying to come to terms with our
current world situation: "...denial can be seductive, but it has an insidious
side effect. For all the peace of mind deniers think they get by saying it isn't
so, the fall they take when faced with new violence is all the more unsettling."
Denial is a save-now-pay-later scheme, a contract written entirely in small
print, for in the long run, the denying person knows the truth on some level.
And so the warrior must strive to confront denial in all aspects of his life,
and prepare himself for the day when evil comes.
If you are warrior who is legally authorized to carry a weapon and you step
outside without that weapon, then you become a sheep, pretending that the bad
man will not come today. No one can be "on" 24/7, for a lifetime. Everyone needs
down time. But if you are authorized to carry a weapon, and you walk outside
without it, just take a deep breath, and say this to yourself..."Baa."
This business of being a sheep or a sheep dog is not a yes-no dichotomy. It is
not an all-or nothing, either-or choice. It is a matter of degrees, a
continuum. On one end is an abject, head-in-the-sand-sheep and on the other end
is the ultimate warrior. Few people exist completely on one end or the other.
Most of us live somewhere in between. Since 9-11 almost everyone in America took a step up that continuum, away from denial. The sheep took a few steps toward accepting and appreciating their warriors, and the warriors started taking their job more seriously. The degree to which you move up that continuum, away from sheephood and denial, is the degree to which you and your loved ones will survive, physically and psychologically, at your moment of truth.
[Note: This essay is
an except from Grossman's new book "On Combat", due out in September
2004.]
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Biography: Lieutenant Colonel Dave Grossman
Lt. Col. Dave Grossman is an internationally recognized scholar, author,
soldier, and speaker
who is one of the world's foremost experts in the field of human aggression and
the roots of violence and violent crime. He is the Director of the Killology
Research Group,
http://www.killology.com/bio.htm . Col. Grossman is a West Point psychology
professor, Professor of Military Science, and an
Army
Ranger who has combined his experiences to become the founder of a new field
of scientific endeavor, which he has termed "killology." In this new field Col.
Grossman has made revolutionary new contributions to our understanding of
killing in war, the psychological costs of war, the root causes of the current
"virus" of violent crime that is raging around the world, and the process of
healing the victims of violence, in war and peace.
He is the author of On
Killing: The Psychological Cost of Learning to Kill in War and Society,
which was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize and is required reading in classes at
West Point, the U.S. Air Force Academy, police academies worldwide, and "peace
studies" programs in numerous universities and colleges. Co-authored with Gloria
DeGaetano, Stop
Teaching Our Kids to Kill: A Call to Action Against TV, Movie, and Video Game
Violence has received international acclaim.
Col. Grossman has been called upon to write the entry on "Aggression and
Violence" in the Oxford Companion to American Military History, three entries in
the Academic Press Encyclopedia of Violence, Peace and Conflict and numerous
entries in scholarly journals, to include the Harvard Journal of Law and Public
Policy. He has presented papers before the national conventions of the American
Medical Association, the American Psychiatric Association, the American
Psychological Association, and the American Academy of Pediatrics. He has
presented to over 40 different colleges and universities world wide.
He has served as an expert witness and
consultant in state and Federal courts, to include UNITED STATES vs. TIMOTHY
MCVEIGH. He helped train mental health professionals after the Jonesboro school
shootings, and he was also involved in counseling or court cases in the
aftermath of the Paducah, Springfield, and Littleton school shootings. He has
testified before U.S. Senate and Congressional committees and numerous state
legislatures, and he and his research have been cited in a national address by
the President of the United States.
Col. Grossman is an Airborne Ranger infantry officer, and a prior-service
sergeant and paratrooper, with a total of over 23 years experience in leading
U.S. soldiers worldwide. He retired from the Army in February 1998 and has
devoted himself fulltime to
teaching, writing, speaking, and research.
Today he is the director of the Killology Research Group, and in the wake of the
9/11 terrorist attacks he is on the road almost 300 days a year, training elite
military and law enforcement organizations worldwide about the reality of
combat.
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"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing" --Albert Einstein
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing" --Edmund Burke
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